There isn’t really an actual age that’s best to get married at. Everyone and every relationship is different and special. But maybe this can help you finalize your decision.
- Make sure he/she is the one. You should know that, even through the worst of times, your mate will be there for you, and that you can grow together. If there is a lack of trust, reconsider.
pretty confident she’s the one. but am i the one for her?
- Think about school, and if getting married too early might affect your educational opportunities. It may be a smarter decision to finish school first. The truth is, as a new family you will need money in order to survive. Education is the best tool to build the financial foundation for your marriage and a healthy lifestyle.
- Think about where you will go, or where your mate will go if you get married. Are you ready to move in with him or her?
im ready for this.
- Do a cost-benefit analysis of the situation. Will waiting to get married be more financially savvy? Will getting married now help taxes?
seems like not the best thing at this point of time but would be ok for a moderate lifestyle
- Make it a point to discuss financial issues with your partner. It is important for a sold union to know what to expect from the other.
hmm.. the difficult part is here. but so far seems ok. she’s a bit tight on budget and im a bit loose. haha.. perhaps this is good for each other..
- Have you developed a budget that has been reality-tested? You should be in a position to demonstrate your ability to live independently before you think that’s it time to get married. It’s even better to have lived independently (as individuals) before thinking of getting married.
not a problem for me..
- Getting married should be a matter of making life commitments – not a means of making ends meet (you can do that with roommates …).
hmm life commitments. does this mean im grounded for the rest of my life? i don’t think so. she seems understanding enough about me going out with friends.. maybe she can join me more often?
- If you have a budget together and it’s been vetted for reasonableness, have you then considered what that budget might look like if you add a newborn baby (or two) to the mix? You know the old saying: “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage” … Not to make light of this – these are serious issues and have life-lasting consequences – everyone needs to consider them thoroughly.
a baby now? huhu.. won’t be enough for three. maybe in a year or two it would be different. but babies will take at least nine months before i need to be financially ready. should be enough i think..
- How do you feel about your partner’s family? Will they be very involved in your joint lives? How does your family feel about your partner? Consider how much you value the opinions of your family and assess the situation.
her family suits me well so far. not sure on my side. my family is a lil tiny bit harder to adapt to this.. it’ll take some time. but she’ll be fine i guess..
- Can you talk to your partner about private issues easily? If not, then you might not be at the right stage in your life and/or your relationship.
me? been talking on all issues. not a problem on my side but sometimes her acceptance bothers me. at times she took it too seriously. but that’s what womens do. i’ll adapt to that soon..
- Most of all, just know in your heart and your gut that you are honestly happy and this person accepts you for who you are and vice versa. Money shouldn’t be the reason if you guys aren’t as lucky as others build up together. That’s real love. It’s about being supportive for each other.
i know im happy with her. i know im supportive of what she did and vice versa. is she happy with me? well u have to ask her that..
- Be sure to look at every angle of the situation before you decide. This is a life changing decision. It is important that you and your partner have similar and hopefully joint goals for the future.
- Think about what you want for yourself in the future and if your mate genuinely shares that vision of the future with you.
- Pre-marital counseling is a really good idea as it helps you to work through all these issues in a logical and thorough way – yeah, it takes some time and dedication, but isn’t making sure your marriage has the best chance of survival worth that sacrifice? Aren’t the children you may have deserving of the best chance you can give them of having an intact and happy family that’s prepared for what life can throw at them?
- Remember: Marriage is not always ‘a walk in the park.’ It takes serious work and effort from both partners. The honeymoon does not last forever!
- When you get married, try to share responsibilities. It’ll make life a lot easier.
- Be sure you’re getting married for the right reasons.
- If the time is not yet right, wait!
- Never rush into marriage. If you love each other, waiting until the time IS right can only make you better prepared for anything that may come your way.
- Never marry someone because you think it may change them!
haha i pasted this.. had a discussion with her earlier. im ready for this. hope she is. just one more step and things will start to roll. article from WikiHow.